Confidence, high self-esteem, self-love… whatever you want to call it, how’s yours? When’s the last time you really took the time to reflect on how you feel about yourself.
We ALL have our bad days, no one is exempt. But, having more bad days than good may be a sign of a lack of confidence or low self esteem. Confidence is free and available to everyone and today we are going to discuss how you can get you some.
Surround yourself with positive people – Recognize your worth. You matter, you are worth something and anyone who doesn’t think that you are the bombdigity on roller skates, screw em’. Surrounding yourself with people who don’t value you is a sure fire way to have low self-esteem.
Recognize what you love about yourself and embrace it – Have you ever had someone take a jab at a feature of yours and you kind of laugh it off, but later you grab a mirror to try to see what they see… and don’t? I have. I have a gap, and yes when I was a kid I felt quite awkward about it. As soon as I got enough money I was going to get my gap fixed, I told myself as a child. Now as an adult I love it. It’s a part of my personality. I always get the question “Have you ever thought about braces”, I look at that person and say gaps are the new black, you should get one. It’s okay to love things about yourself that the next person might not appreciate, or that might not be considered the norm. Those things are what make you, you. I mean seriously who wants to look exactly like everyone else anyway?
Tell yourself you are the shit daily – Affirmations are really underrated. Confidence is like a muscle you have to continuously work it to keep it strong. Telling yourself that you are powerful, have value and their is no one else like you does wonders for your self-esteem. Wake up, look in the mirror and tell yourself you are the bomb gurl! Even if you don’t believe it now, if you tell yourself enough times you will, because after all it’s true.
Don’t compare yourself to other people – Don’t take it for face value that people are as real as they seem. You could be comparing yourself to a complete fraud. Comparing your talent to someone who has spent years perfecting theirs, or comparing your looks to someone who spends six hours getting dressed, Even comparing your opportunities to someone who low-key has an unspoken “hook-up”. I hate to use this cliché term but AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT. Comparison is the death to confidence and joy and peace and [insert any other happy term you’d like HERE]. There is always going to be bigger or better even, but when you have confidence in yourself you really don’t give a damn.
Smoke and mirrors – It’s all contrived! Look around you do most of the people you see look like what you see on social medial, blogs and fashion magazines, etc? So why are you believing it? I am going to let this sit right here so you can marinate on that…
How would you rate your confidence? Could it be higher? Let talk a